T.D. Jakes: Marriage

If you are looking for someone to be your everything,
don't look around, Look Up!
God is the only One who can be everything.
By expecting perfection from the flesh,
you ask more out of someone else than what you can provide yourself.
To be married is to have a partner:
someone who is not always there or always on target or always anything!
On the other hand, should you ever get in trouble
and you don't know who to look to for help,
you can count on your partner!
It is to have someone curl up against
when the world seems cold and life uncertain.
It is having someone who is concerned
as you are when your children are ill.
It is having a hand that keeps checking
your forehead when you aren't well.
To be married is to have someone's shoulder to cry on
as they lower your parent's body into the ground.
It is wrapping wrinkled knees in warm blankets and giggling without teeth!
To the person you marry you are saying,
When my time comes to leave this world
and the chill of eternity blows away my birthdays
and my future stands still in the night;
it's your face I want to kiss good-bye.
It is your hand I want to squeeze
as I slip from time to eternity.
As the curtain closes on all I have attempted to do and be;
I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered.
Not what I looked like. Not what I did or how much money I made.
Not even how talented I was.
I want to look into the teary eyes of someone who loved me and see;
I mattered.